Judgement Day

You know...I find it odd when people say they hate it when they and their actions are judged by other people. now when did "judge" become such a bad word? It really isn't, all judging is is forming an opinion about something...actually the exact definition is:

judge (verb)
opinion [intransitive and transitive] to form or give an opinion about someone or something after thinking carefully about all the information you know about them

now really...how unrealistic is it to think that someone wouldn't form an opinion on something they've seen or heard. It's impossible, no matter how hard one tries you cannot NOT form an opinion about something. But if you just look at the exact definition, you're taking into consideration ALL the information you have about it at that point in time. Look at Judges for example, they have to listen to and see all sorts of evidence about situations and are expected to "judge" them, or come to a fair or just conclusion based on what they have. Is that so bad? Judges at sports events are supposed to say how well the performance was based on their expert opinion, again there's a positive form of judgement. Hell when people say "use your best judgement" they're not saying "discriminate against all those people" they're telling you to come to the best conclusion.

So what about judging someone's actions? If you don't judge actions then how are you supposed to know how you think about them? I mean every little thing you do is unconsciously controled by your values and beliefs, so by "judging" your actions a person is really forming an opinion of what they think of you. Besides, if people don't base their opinion of you on the things YOU do what the heck else are they supposed to base it on? Like i said, judging isn't a bad thing, it's just taking the facts and forming an opinion. Perhaps it's "pressuming" that would be the negative thing to do, but not judging.

-Matt